Why modern day relationships are falling apart so easily?


We are the 90’s kids. There are a lot of things that we have witnessed and were a part of. From spending hours and hours on Smart phones to eating soil at the garden, we lived both. Moving away from positive aspects to negative aspects, we’re probably the first generation who has lost the ability to be in love as well. We date for the sake of dating. The only question that remains is whether we'll be remembered for being the first generation to accept a more logical and rational take on love or the generation that gave up on it altogether.

Let’s just jump over the reasons to find why our generation is losing the capability to be in love.

1.  We love perfection


 We crave for perfection. Today if we love someone and tomorrow if we find someone better than         our partner, we instantly “Fall in Love” with the “Better one”. The grass always seems greener       on the other side. But who the hell told you to look for greener grass?


2.   We don’t seek love
     
Yes, this is the bitter truth of the city life. We are “Loving” just for the sake of bringing excitement to our lives. We trust in spending time together and not in creating memories. When the excitement fades, we start looking for some other person to  bring that excitement back to our life.


3.  We are a hookup generation

We get laid first and then decide if we are in love. We are sexually “liberated”. Getting laid has become the new getting drunk. You do it not because you love the other person, but because you want to feel good. We need temporary fulfillment. Our physical needs are dominating our emotional needs. Sex outside a relationship isn't a taboo anymore. Relationships are very simple; open relationships, friends with benefits, causal flings, one-night stands, no strings attached – we've left very little exclusivity for love in our lives.



4.   We are money-minded

  Creating a good and stable life is good until it is coming at the cost of sacrificing your love life. We chase materialistic dreams, leaving no scope for love. We are so engaged in earning a better lifestyle for us that sometimes we forget to live that “better lifestyle” that we have created. We chase for partners who are financially as stable as we are or maybe more than us.


5.  All we care about is our own self respect

    Our life revolves around our own needs and our goals, we often forget to include our partner into that. Being egoistic is fine till the time we are not losing the ability to feel empathy. We're not prepared. We're not prepared for the sacrifices, for the compromises, for the unconditional love. We're not ready to invest all that it takes to make a relationship work. We want everything easy. We're quitters. All it takes is a single hurdle to make us crumble to our feet. We don't let our love grow, we let go before time.





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