An Open Letter to Everyone Who Thinks I’m Not ‘Wife Material’
With a Patiala peg in my left hand I was dancing on the beats of ‘Move to
Miami’ when this so-called friend came close and started throwing unwanted trash
out of his mouth.
“You’re pretty. You work hard, but you know you should just improve
yourself a bit now. You’re 25 and soon you might get married. Make yourself
wife-material. Be marriage-type.”
I didn’t know what to say. In the most difficult situations of life, when
you don’t know what to say, not only your brain stops working but your other
body parts stop responding too.
I stood still there, my mouth was dry, and I moved out of the party
immediately.
I drove as fast as I possibly could.
Here I am, standing in front of a wall mirror, trying to gather all my thoughts.
This was the perfect time for me to introspect and figure out
what exactly is wrong with me?
When I was born, my dad didn’t say “A future-wife is born! I
am going to raise her as a marriage-material”.
When I got first price
in singing competition in Class-6, I was not thinking about singing lullabies to
my future kids.
When I post graduated and got a job I didn’t think about
expecting decent rishtas for myself
soon after it.
When I will hold someone’s hand and will take a man to be my
husband, I will stand by him through thick and thin, through the darkest of his
nights and the brightest of his days. I will protect him, defend him, love him
and allow him to do the same for me, and for that I do not need to be wife
material.
Yes! He is right. I am not a marriage material. I was not
born to be a wife. I have my own identity.
I am not going to apologize if I earn more than they expect
me to earn. I am not going to apologize if my rotis are not round. I am not going to apologize if I keep my
choices loud and clear in front of you. I am not going to apologize just
because I can handle more alcohol than you. I am not going to apologize if my
personality is hampering your Male-Ego.
I was not born to be a ‘suppressed’ wife of a ‘decent-guy’. I
was born to be an individual, with clear thoughts and clear choices. I was born
to be a good human being first. Marriage is a choice, not necessity and my life
doesn’t revolve around being a ‘successful’ wife someday.
So yes, I am accepting the fact that I am not wife-type and I'm proud of it.
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